10.Domestic homicide is a passionate drama, an act of despair, a gesture of love. It's an isolated and desperate act
Domestic violence is not a loss of control; rather, it is a means to exert control or dominance on another person.
Source: Plan d'action gouvernemental en matière de violence conjugale 2018-2023 (2018)
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7. Domestic violence is the
result of a 'loss of control'.
8. Those who stay with a violent partner do not want to leave the situation.
9. A violent partner demonstrates aggressiveness in all the spheres of their life and tries to dominate all the people who surround them.
Although some abusive men have mental health issues, violence is not explained by mental health issues.
Certain characteristics in a relationship can indicate the existence of domestic violence. Unequal power (control over the other one), the cyclic and repetitive aspect, fear, isolating, can be among some of these indicators. A lover's quarrel is a disagreement, between two people, manifested by anger or aggression however the relationship remains egalitarian, unlike domestic violence.
Many acts committed in a context of domestic violence, are infractions of the Criminal Code.
Domestic violence is found in every social, economic and cultural group.
There are no provocations in conjugal violence - only events that trigger an aggressive response and are then used as "excuses" for this violence. An aggressor is always responsible for his/her actions No situation or event can justify resorting to violence.
The excessive consumption of alcohol is among one of the factors in the risk of committing violence against a partner. The consumption of alcohol is, however, not a sufficient justification to explain conjugal violence. It cannot excuse the aggressiveness and violence.
Several complex reasons can explain why a victim may stay with their aggressor.
Why do victims stay with their aggressor? Victims who are in the cycle of violence may stay out of fear, embarassement, guilt, doubt and helplessness.
Furthermore, studies have revealed several factors which explain why a woman remains in a relationship marked by violence. Religious beliefs, personal values and cultural values may limit a victim from leaving their violent partner.
Here are a few examples:
The fear of vengeance and threats made by the partner; the fear to undertake legal action, either to denounce the partner or to separate; the absence and the lack of knowledge concerning available resources; the concern for the children; the lack of support from family and friends; the constant hope that the partner will change, etc.
The partner with violent behaviours is not necessarily violent in all spheres of their life (for example: at work or towards strangers) and may in fact not have any criminal record.
6. A violent partner is mentally unstable.
4. The aggressor may resort to violence because the victim encouraged the outcome.
5. Alcohol use is not the primary cause of domestic violence.
3. Domestic violence is just a lover's quarrel.
2. Domestic violence is a social problem.
1. Domestic violence is a problem that affects only certain groups and certain segments of society.
Domestic homicide is a murder, often premeditated. It's the outcome of a relationship of violence and domination.